Friday, March 12, 2010

It's been so long since the last time, so let us Forgive, Forget and Remember.

I am back after so long. Well throughout that absence i have learnt a lot and its about time to share.

I have been contemplating for quite some time about the objective of life. We are all here for a brief interval. What we do during this interval will determine how we are remembered. I have known many people who came in my life, left a mark and left. I have always heard that everyone is here for a reason and that their whole life can be summed up in how you can remember them.

Some can be remembered because they lived by the Carpe Diem motto, i.e. they cared only about the present and did not bother about the future.

Some can be remembered because they lived their whole life pleasing others, without focussing about pleasing themselves.

Some lived their whole life ensuring that they led people on the right track, but lost their own way.

Some people take a wrong step once, fall, and this fall leaves a lifelong scar. Though they might have learn a lesson (the hard way), the scar will always remind them of that one wrong step.

I have believed in and lived by the motto :'An eye for an eye', but this simply is not right. Because you will end up being exactly the same as the one who hurt you. Which is not what you would like, and this could be your wrong step. What happens if the scar is one somebody else?

Well I am learning to forgive. Some people focus on nourishing the grudge, and forget why there was a grudge in the first place. Time goes by.... that is time wasted. I do not want to be remembered as someone who was revengeful.

Everyone will have only one shot at everything, so better not waste it. If by misfortune you miss it, do not waste time. Learn your lesson, keep going and focus on not committing the same mistake again.

Let's forgive, forget and remember....this might sound contradictory, but let me explain.
We will forgive, forget the harm done to you and remember only the good times.

Oooh, by the way a good friend of mine released a video on youtube check it out here. Have a look and tell me if you recognise anyone!

What do you think?


Anonymous said...

we always asked for forgiveness from others but can we forgive ourself for hurting others?? not sure if we can, with time we just dont think about it as we move on with our life but as you said the scar is here and all we have left are memories.
sometimes we dont realise that what we have is enough and keep running after new things, but at the end we know that what we need in this life has always been here next to us. And when we finally realise that its too late.
we then want to go back to change the past and the words 'if only..' came again and again but there is nothing we can do about it.
so now we can only remember..

Chaya said...

Just as I thought, "let me check whether there has been an update", and Bingo!

Being used to the sarcastic posts here, this post seems odd. There is always scope for changes, right?

Welcome back to your blog and I must say it's a really nice post.

Recently, even I have been thinking of forgiving some people, forgetting about the harm they did and trying to remember the good times. But I must say, that it's indeed a tough task to do. It's so difficult to separate memories of the harm caused from those nice ones. Forgiving is easy, but forgetting and remembering is difficult.

Let's hope that we (people who are really trying to) are succesful in this "endeavour"

As regards the video, I can recognise only the Guest of Honour, The Minister, Mr. Avinash Meetoo.

Avinash Meetoo said...

Nice blog post, Gavin.

I agree. It's better to forgive than spend your limited energy otherwise. The thing is that all of us really believe we're doing the right thing and it's tough to convince someone that he/she was on the wrong track.

On the other hand, something which is easier is to do as well as you can. Then some people will find inspiration from what you are doing and, voilĂ , you've managed to influence them without spending so much energy.

G@V!N said...

@ Avinash:
Thank you. But it seems easier to forgive, but it takes a hell of a lot of maturity and wisdom.
@ Chaya:
Do not worry, i am still in good health, the sarcastic posts will be back soon...chassez le naturel et il revient au galop.I agree that it is forgiving is very hard, but it is wise. We never know if the person we are holding the grudge against will still be here when we are ready to forgive, so take no chances, Forgive Today!!!

Chaya said...

"We never know if the person we are holding the grudge against will still be here when we are ready to forgive, so take no chances, Forgive Today!!!"

Rightly said.

Anonymous said...

sometimes we need to be very careful.